Unbelievable..........................

I spoke to my younger sister yesterday..................she was just here for a 10 day vacation, she had actually won an airline ticket and chose to come visit me. Last time I saw my sister was in 2001, when she came to visit with her family. Since then she has had another son, Tommie, who I have never met in person.
My sister, as well as the rest of my family lives in Holland, where I am from originally.

Staying in touch ahs definitely gotten easier over the past 15 years. Now we have e-mail, webcam, digital camera's, etc
But nothing is as good as spending time together. We had an absolute blast !! I had forgotten how much fun it is to go shopping together and laugh about the same things. Here we were at the dollar store, both laughing so hard (over something stupid ofcourse) that tears were rolling and we ( or maybe just me) were afraid of peeing in our pants.

We shopped, lunched, talked, caught up, had some pretty deep conversations, all in all it was a HUGE blessing and the 10 days went way too fast !

When I left Holland, Pien was in college. It was so nice to re connect, as sisters, but as moms as well.

The relationship with my father has been strained for a long time and since 2001 there really has been no contact. He has remarried and his new wife has a very strong opinion of me (based on meeting me once)
My sister did not tell me until yesterday that this woman went off the deep end about me and Oscar (my oldest) at my sister's house, with my father standing by and saying nothing. I know Pien was really upset about this incident and it hurt her deeply to have this women screaming insults about me and my 16 year old ( who does not have anything to do with all of this, it just shows how irate this person was)
I have slept on this for a night and I have to say I am deeply hurt, hurt for my sister, who shouldn't have to put up with this. Hurt for my son, who never did anything wrong. And yes, hurt for myself..............someone was calling me every name in the book, but mostly the B word ( she knows nothing about me, only met once)

and my father stood by and said nothing...................................

It saddens me..............a lot of stuff has happened in the past, no we don't have a relationship today, but as a parent.............over my dead body would I let anyone talk about any of my kids like that.

I'm sorry Pientje, that you had to listen to all that crap...........I love you, thanks for sticking up for me and my kids.